How was your morning? Were you curled up in a big, comfy chair, sipping a cup of tea and having some quiet time? …while you ate a scone? …in your fluffy robe? No? Me neither. In fact, sometimes I think the image of a woman resting like that is a fable. Well, maybe not for women before they have children or women whose children have grown up and moved out. But if you have children in your house, I can guarantee that if you DO get to have some tea, it is often cold. And your fluffy robe likely has a pattern of smeared tears and other “children juices” all over it. Life for Moms is often full and demanding. If we let the busy control our days, we will become exhausted and frustrated. We begin to resent our situation. [OK, I’m being a bit transparent to the whole world here, but can I just say that if we don’t maintain the correct perspective, we lose rational thinking and let our situation control us.] I have NEVER resented having children, but I HAVE fallen into resenting the fact that I feel like I don’t ever get a break. Ever feel
Last fall, I was at a high school volleyball tournament, watching my daughter play with her varsity team. She has the privilege to play on a homeschool high school team (which thankfully wears a bit more modest uniforms than most). During a tournament, her team has to play several schools each day. As they began warming up to play their mid-morning game, the other team arrived. And I saw her. The captain of this team was strikingly beautiful. (Yes, women notice these things.) She was tall, with an athletic build. She had long, blond hair, pulled back into a pony tail. No frizzy hair for her. It was silky and straight. Her complexion appeared flawless, which is rare for a teenager. She moved around the court with speed and agility, directing her obviously less-experienced team players on where they should be standing and how they should be warming up. I overheard that she was the only senior on their team; several seniors having graduated the previous year, leaving a young and less-skilled team for her to lead. And you could tell she was a bit frustrated with that. As the game began, she started yelling to her teammates about their
I’m excited to be guest-posting over at Education Possible today. I’ll be sharing about seven important skills you should build in your middle school-aged students. These key experiences and skills will better prepare them for entering high school. Now, did I do ALL of these with each of my children? Well, not completely. But as I have looked back over our high school journey, and I have taught a bunch of classes to homeschool students, I realize that these abilities are so helpful to their development and their preparation to excel not only in education but in life! HERE is the link. (Note: link is not active unless you have opened this post ;-)
Today is Thursday- in the midst of weekday work. You may have woken up with a groan, forced yourself out of bed for yet another day, weary from being up a few times through the night to help a little one. It just seems to go on and on, doesn’t it? We can’t punch out on a clock as if we were employed. Nope. This is 24/7. Yet this is where we lose our perspective. When I had mornings when I felt this way, I reminded myself WHY I was doing this. WHY I stepped out of an exciting career to become a stay-at-home mom. Why I continued to take on more things by deciding to homeschool our children. I was certainly not doing this for selfish reasons. Certainly not to make a name for myself. I felt that God was calling me to do these things that were counter to the world’s pull on me. I knew that this was an honorable choice in God’s eyes. No one else could love my children the way I love them. No one else would be a better advocate for them, striving to instill in them character, godly principles, and an excellent
I know I’ve been posting a few links lately, but this is amazing. Bobby McFerrin shows how humans all over the world instinctively understand the pentatonic scale of music. We have an intrinsic knowledge of it. Even if we are not musically inclined, we know what “sounds right.” Yet, this is not a beneficial survival characteristic. So if humans evolved, then why do we have an understanding and a deep desire to make and enjoy music. Perhaps it has something to do with a desire given to us by our Creator as a part of all creation to “sing praises to our LORD!” Find the link here.
Well, if you are reading this post, you likely have a child who has a hard time focusing on things. Now, I first want to remind us all that EVERY child has a bit of a hard time focusing. It’s a physical thing. Their minds are developing, and they are taking in sights, sounds, and smells. They have to touch and explore everything around them. And that is good. That is how they develop and learn how the world works. But there are some children who are diverted to a greater extent. I know. I have one. WALLPAPER distracted this child. At the age of three, he would be heading to his room, carrying some folded clothes, when suddenly he would stop and stare at the wallpaper patterns of our dining room. I used to think, “What is up with him? Is he checked out from the world?” What I eventually came to learn is that easily distracted children are often very bright. They have a great capacity to learn. Neurologically, they are more aware of what’s around them. They can more easily take in information. That is a good thing, and that is a challenging thing. You see, with
If you have children, it is a given that laundry is a big part of your week. I know it has been for us. Of course, as the kids got older, I began to have them take on some laundry chores to help. Yes, it builds skills and teaches them a good work ethic, but it also helps me out! Well, one of the problems we have had is identifying whose clothing item belongs to whom. (Sorry, after 21 years of teaching grammar to my kids, I just have to use the “who” and “whom” correctly – it sounds so formal, and you guys know I am not a very formal person!) Anyway…I had read about so many strategies to remember who gets which clothing item: sewing on colored tags (lots of work), sticking with certain wardrobe colors for each child (not happening), different brands for each child (DEFINITELY not happening), just make mental note as to who gets what (Now you’re just being crazy!). None of these methods seemed doable to me. We have three boys and a girl. When the oldest outgrew something, it went straight into the drawer of the next boy, then the next, and so
I love gardening metaphors. They really help us understand some of the challenges we face as parents. You know…our home is the garden; we are the gardeners tending it; the fruit coming out of the garden is our children; the fertilizer is..well, you can’t take metaphors too far. I’ll have to think on that one. But thinking about this comparison, I realize that it is hard work to have a successful garden. It takes daily effort to produce a beautiful, healthy bounty. And think about the gardeners (that’s us parents). They weed, hoe, water, fertilize, prune. Sometimes our backs hurt from bending over. We get dirt under our fingernails and thorns in our hands. With all this work, we would like to see a little encouraging results. Yet that takes time. Do you see where I’m going with this? Parents have a lifetime of work to bring up their children. Children need our continuous devotion in order to thrive. If you are a parent, you automatically are given this role of gardener. And it is easy to spot other “gardeners” around us. They have those telltale signs of sun on their faces, dirty hands…diaper bags on their shoulders, spit-up on